Getting turned on by the wrong things is very much an occupational hazard for a kinkster. (In fact, come to think of it, ‘getting turned on by the wrong things’ is probably the dictionary definition of a pervert.)
How do I choose a vibrator? Do I need something knobbly? Or waterproof? Or conical and kind of baffling?
If girls’ comics of the 1980s didn’t make me into a spanko, they certainly tapped into that part of my psyche at quite an early age.
There is a scene in Steven Shainberg’s Secretary where E Edward Grey speaks to Lee, his secretary and submissive, about her history of self-harm. “Is it that sometimes the pain inside has to come to the surface?”