A while back, someone posted the following stats on Facebook showing how frequently people masturbate, broken down by age and sex.
Not very often at all, it turns out. Although in the absence of any other data* it’s hard to draw any definite conclusions about this. Maybe most people don’t wank much, Or maybe they do and then they get embarrassed and don’t admit to it in surveys. Maybe the reason they don’t wank much is because they’re all busy having kinky animalistic sex and threeways and stuff and they simply don’t have the time for a bit of self-pleasuring.
What it did reveal is that I am very much above average in this regard, Coming (ha!) in at the top 1.5 percentile for my age and sex. This really shouldn’t come as a surprise to anyone given the nature of my usual reading (and writing) matter.
And the thing is, I always thought I was rather good at it. “A considerate and imaginative lover of me” as Caitlin Moran put it in How to be a Woman. Except that for a brief time recently, I wasn’t the only person involved in my orgasms and it did rather make me realise that I have been rather selling myself short in the orgasm department. I had lost sight of quite how literally breath-taking, overpowering and oddly twitchy achieving climax could actually be.
Well, I’m back to being the sole caretaker of my sexual pleasure again, and to be honest, I’ve had to have a bit of a word with myself. “Look here, Etta,” I said. “The standard of orgasms round these parts isn’t what it could be. There’s definitely some room for improvement.” Because sometimes you have to be a bit stern about these things.
I own one vibrator, a neon pink rampant rabbit which I bought about ten years ago at an Ann Summers party so the first step in Operation Better Orgasms was to get that out of retirement. Hmm. I can see why the thing got retired almost straightaway, I really didn’t get much out of it at all.
It’s a bit weird. First of all, is it trying to look like a penis or isn’t it?
Aside from the colour, they’ve clearly tried to make the main shaft look as penis-y as possible what with all the loving attention to detail on the glans and the veins and everything. But if that’s the case, what on earth were they thinking with this bit?
I’m all for a bit of clitoral stimulation but was making it look like some kind of massive alien penis parasite really the best design decision? Is it aimed at people with an HR Giger fetish?
The whole “Is it supposed to be like a penis or isn’t it?” question comes up again when you consider the thing’s settings. Which are ‘vibrate’ and ‘stir’. Neither of which really emulate the behaviour of any penises I’ve made the acquaintance of.
Not that it needs to be penis-y of course. I am aware that sex toys come in all manner of shapes and sizes. And it really shouldn’t matter what the thing looks like as long as it gets the job done. But the thing is, it kind of didn’t. The clitoral alien parasite bit was uncomfortably spiky, the ‘stir’ setting did nothing for me and does anyone else find that all that vibration can get a bit numbing?
Now, it’s entirely possible that I was doing it all wrong. I have no idea what I’m doing here, apparently. It is also entirely possible that vibrator technology has moved on apace in the last decade or so. In which case, I probably need to do is invest in a new bit of kit, something a bit more 2015 and in tune with my self-pleasuring needs,
How on earth does one choose a vibrator? The Voluptasse website is showing me a intimidatingly large range of the things. Do I need something knobbly? Or waterproof? Or conical and kind of baffling? It’s not like these things can be tried out beforehand. And I don’t have the budget to just buy one of each to see which one I like best.
|Although that would make for a pretty awesome weekend.|
So this is where you come in, my lovely readers. Shower me with your sex toy recommendations. (Was ‘shower me’ a poor choice of phrase there, do you think? Do we feel a bit grubby now?) I want to benefit from your collective self-pleasuring experience. Please leave your comments below or email me if you feel a bit weird discussing your wanking habits in public.
Because I know there are bigger, better orgasms to be had out there and, quite frankly, I intend to have them.
* Well, there’s plenty of other data. It’s a whole sex survey. What I mean really is “in the absence of any other data that I can be arsed to go and check”
2 thoughts on “Good Vibrations”
I can't use vibrators – they numb me. I've been five-fingering it since I was a child. But, I have found there are certain BDSM techniques I can use myself, such as Bondage. Try this: http://blog.thiannad.com/2013/07/bdsm-4-u-1.html
I just announced to my family "I'm not normal. If you had any doubts before, stop doubting–im definitely not normal!" They, of course, have no idea what referring to, and to be honest, they didn't respond anyway. They know! I'm also in the top 1.5% and have been for years apparently!
I love my toys! I have way too many to list! Lol. I have had several Rabbits–pink, glittery pink, silver, purple and blue. I've also gotten the waterproof kinds, but if I'm playing in the shower–my new Paris, I Rub My Duckie is very nice!
I work with very young girls and they recommended it. Young women are very open about toys–something we weren't at that age. Comparing and recommending toys are common topics. Lol. And I must say, everyone agrees that those two toys are a staple for women!!
I like Adamandeve.com because they have great sales and give away a TON of toys–so I've been able to experiment without having to buy it! :)).
Enjoy! Us top 1%ers have to stick together